One of the hardest things for humans to do that they’ve never been trained on is sitting still in uncertainty. Our instant reflex is either to run away or hide in a corner, and deal with it in solitude. Or our instant reflex is to eat a yummy sugary dessert hoping all our problems will go away, even if it’s just for a little while.
The hard part about uncertainty is that only one thing is in focus- the big, obvious, glaring fact of not knowing what is ahead. Every other positive and fortunate thing in life is hidden away behind a mysterious grey cloud, with no sign of when the sun will come out again.
Sadly, there is no daily weather forecast to life. There’s no prediction of what will happen tomorrow or how different we will feel when things finally fall into place. In moments like this, we often want to connect with the people around us, but are afraid of seeming fragile. Or even worse, seeming “not put together” as some of us see it, who have been taught that an organized, structured progression of life is the only acceptable way.
Something that has helped me in these uncertain bubbles of time is revisiting places I’ve been to in the past. I like to think about how the memories of my last time being there were so different from right now. It reminds me that if I felt hopeful the last time I visited here, I am capable of feeling that emotion again. If I was feeling happier and more hopeful then than I do now, it means I am taking a brave leap, a courageous risk to change the course of my life- changes that I know will in the end, help me grow.
Even if we cannot predict tomorrow’s weather forecast, I am learning to trust that the seasons are changing slowly. I know I won’t see the signs of changes today or tomorrow, but I am slowly moving closer and closer to my goal. Until that day, I will have to find ways to accept and make room for the uncertainty, to bloom into something beautiful sometime soon.