Hey, Don’t Forget the Little Things

All of us have something in our minds that we passionately dream of..uu

For the ambitious ones, it’s success.
For the adventurous ones, knowing that they seized every opportunity, is a celebration.
For the realistic optimist, it’s taking every mistake as a learning experience to eventually reach success and exhilarating happiness.
For the anxious ones, making something out of all the wishful thinking becomes something to hysterically happy-cry about because they’re so proud of themselves.
For the romantic, it’s finding someone imperfectly perfect. (hey, I know you’re a romantic. Yes, you! Don’t you super secretly want that someone who loves you, just being you? But other than that you’re super chill and not sappy at all. ).

All of us dream.

We dream big, and that is something astounding..

Yet what we forget in the times of hardships and mistakes and setbacks is that, embracing and taking pride in the little things is what counts you down on your ‘let’s reach happiness’ meter. Am I just inserting a clichéd happy-quote-kind-of sentence and topping this little internet bubble off with an exclamation point? Honestly, yes. But do you know what the crazy part is? I just realised how true this is..

Dreaming about the world that you’d love to live in is great.
But you also need to keep yourselves busy en route.

Do every little thing that you can to get even an inch closer. Make new connections, start the conversation, take up smaller learning projects, celebrate your daily victories, be proud of yourself for being super brave! Get yourself thinking “Why am I on this path, and what can I do to shine the brightest?”. Accept the fact that achieving the end goal is not going to be quick. Be grateful for the time that you get to learn and love things on the way. Start small. Simply starting, and your ability to keep keep on keeping on will get you where you want to be soon. I promise.

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I’m attempting WEDIM! That is, Write Everyday in May. More of my crazy thoughts on why and how later. Thanks for reading!

WEDIM, Day 1

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Battles, Doom and Conquering ’em All #Theory 007

I have tried writing something for this digital space I love so much, a thousand times by now but had no idea how to you know, do it, and so *boop* I deleted  it. But here it is, reformed, uncrumpled and just.. here.

Today, let’s talk battles. We’ve all got them. Yours are probably different than mine and you probably handle yours differently than I do. The fearless bunch amongst us, karate chop the heck out of the situation, slaying, with ninja reflexes of thinking, deciding and acting upon it. People from the other more shadowy realm of overthinking, indecisiveness and just more overthinking, often run a fever of ferocious fear in their hearts. But they’re not to blame at all. Some battles are gigantic, in front of which you feel miserable and helplessly small. Some are like a tsunami wave that catches you so off guard that you start questioning all your efforts and their uncertain fruitfulness. Some are as big and scary as being in a void outside of the universe, from where it looks like everything is moving way too fast and you, are just static.

So, yes, battles are scary. I’m a tiny, yet brave (self-proclaimed brave, really) girl, but guess what? Even I think that battles are herculean, and sometimes unending blocks of doom. If this tiny girl right here is calling herself brave whilst writing a post solely dedicated to how intensely terrified she is, then you’ve got to have the bravest mind to be trusting her with where she is going with this haha.

But guess what? Nobody tells you what’s on the cheat sheet. Heck, you probably didn’t even know of the existence of said cheatsheet! Well, I happened to stumble across it a while ago and let me tell you, it’s got just one word scrawled across it that puts everything into perspective in the echo of chaos we’re sometimes so easily lost in.resilienceResilience is all that you need, to not just win, but conquer your battles. To just tell the universe that “I’M GOOD” even when it throws all its tricks, traps, and crazy endurance tests at you, is really the only requirement to get accepted into joining the squad that leads you right into the victor’s side of the battlefield. But most importantly, resilience gives you a passionate reason to gradually fight back, and simply leaves you with a reason to keep doing what you’re so incredibly going at. So, do just that and take the leap. Victory is waiting for you and trust me, it’s not too far away.

My mind has an explosive amount of thoughts but had inexplicably lost the ability to translate itself into comprehensive little magical bundles called words. I know that doesn’t explain my going AWOL at all but I have no idea what to tell you because I can’t quite understand my situation myself either. My mind’s still running unleashed, wild, and very five-year-old-like though, it just needed some time to settle the battles that it sometimes finds itself fighting. Hope you’re doing amazingly and all battles are being conquered, if not blissfully at bay.

 

 

I’m Scared? #Theory 006

Let me admit it, I’m scared of a lot of things.

I’m scared about my life. I’m scared about how it’s going to turn out to be, if it’s going to turn out the way I expect it to, and where I’ll be in a matter of, say, five years.

I’m scared about happiness. I’m scared that I will never truly find it, and that I’ll constantly keep worrying about finding that happiness and that I’ll lose it the minute I find it.

I’m scared of the darkness. I’m scared that I might stumble and fall and be totally oblivious to any response to my cry-for-helps until someone pulls me back on my feet again.

I’m scared about expression. I’m scared that I might never be able to say what I feel, and talk about the dreams I want to pursue and that I might never be truly be able to open up to the people who matter to me the most.

I’m scared about my writing. I’m scared that I might one day wake up, and that I will lose the explosion of inspiration that I once used to have, and that I will not be able to write nearly as incredibly as I’ve always wanted to and that I might probably not write another word, that would eventually leave me empty, inside out.

I guess that should be it, apart from my soul wrenching fears of aeroplanes, crowds, stages, public speaking, popular attention, my mind voices being heard, my mind voices not being heard, taking the leap, overly risky plans, losing things, losing people, failure, disappointment and the fact that this list still goes on.

Alright, now that you’ve read about what’s just a tiny portion of the endless list of my insecurities, fears and a little bit of my pride being cast away, very safe and soundly, come to terms with the fact that it’s not just you. Everyone’s got these fears that do nothing but weigh them down. These fears, that give you all the doubts and nervous breakdowns. They’re there in every one of us. It’s totally fine to be overcome by them. It’s perfectly acceptable to be skeptical about your abilities because some voiceless fear told you that you can’t do it.

The only thing, and believe me when I say this, the only thing I ask from you, is to never, ever be scared of trying. Do you know why? Not being scared of trying is like wearing the crown of courage.

Because, suddenly, you aren’t scared of trying to live. You aren’t scared of trying to be happy. You aren’t scared of trying to walk through darkness with the elegant aura of confidence lighting up the path. You aren’t scared of trying to express yourself boldly and wholly.

I am not scared of trying my best to write this very word. I fearlessly hover my fingers over each key on this keyboard as I pounce back on all my fears. I fearlessly hope that every word, comma and thought behind this makes a little sense to you. And literally, all I needed and what I realise we’re all fortunately and naturally equipped with is not being scared of trying,  the courage to try. And sometimes, it’s all you need, really. =)

Head this way for a ‘try’ at a series of hope-reinstating (fingers crossed) little teams of words.

Tackling Blocks

On the onset of a devilish writer’s block that I desperately wanted to chase away before it got anywhere near getting into my happiness radius, I decided to turn it to my advantage instead. Ha! So there, you little blob of unsatisfactory existence.

Upon close examination under my reality microscope, it came to my surprising notice that writer’s block is in actual a shape-shifter. Shocker, right? I mean what else do you not see coming at all, but you know will terrify you at any moment, sending you into a maze of mindlessness?

So hear me loud and clear, writer’s block or any other block for that matter, is a rampant shape-shifter.

All you’ve got to do is battle it to a point till when it turns into something you’ve been looking for all along, like let’s say, some inspiration. However, let’s still go through how to tackle a few of this irksome blocks for those of who are still a little in lost-land.

A Writer’s Block. Write about how you’ve got writer’s block. The words will keep pumping out and you’ll soon turn your bizarre fan fiction into a  best seller. Or, very simply and proudly, write a speech that you imagine yourself to be giving your future admirers about how a block got you one night and you thought you were going to end up raking virtual dust off your manuscript instead of being the star of it.

A Social Block. Be it anxiety or just downright awkwardness, say or do what exactly what’s on your mind and look super confident with a head-held-high cherry on the top. Confidence and self belief that your actions are obviously a hundred percent accurate by the laws of nature, is all you need sometimes.

An Intellect Block. Just put down your pen, or lay off your fingers off that piece of code/algorithm out of which you’re trying to find some logic. Have a laugh over the latest gone-viral baby video or skip to your favourite song playing on the radio. Come back and resume your work and voila! The solution is probably staring at you thinking “How the heck did you not see me all this while?”. If the problem persists, from what I’ve heard from really smart people I know, just sleep on the problem. Take it, lie down and turn over you pillow- so that you sleep over it both literally and figuratively and you’re sure to get it right the next morning.

A Decision Block. Dilemmas are nobody’s best friends. As much as you want to take a yellow legal pad to list down the pros and cons of the equally viable choices (say, like Ted Mosby’s genius idea. If you look close enough, you’ll realise that they didn’t “really” cheer), do what your gut says. Take that path which you think will make you shine a teensy bit brighter than the other.

A Self Esteem Block. NO, OKAY? Not everything is your fault. You are awesome for the person you are and for the person you aren’t. That’s that. Go talk to your loved one and let them tell you how amazing you truly are. Otherwise, talk to your very first best friend- yourself.

 

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Go on then, tackle blocks like a boss, you.

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=) #Theory 005

Has someone let you down?
Something you didn’t want has come upon?
In some way you feel you don’t belong?

Some rules, that don’t seem to fit you,
Or some how the whole world’s against you,
Or something just doesn’t feel right?

Stop
Don’t cry
Just come on out
Come outside your shell and smile
Smile like you mean it
Smile like the world can’t bring you down
Smile like hapiness is something you’ve found

Because there’s a perfectly good reason
Of why you should do exactly that
No man, no woman in no time, no season
Is going to set things right
No force, no shadow in no space, no hollow
Would you fall, with the inabiltity
To get back and pick yourself up

After all it is eventually the belief
That you follow your own rules
You set yourself against the world
to believe in what you do
And to achieve the highest benchmark

Stop
Don’t shy
Just stand back up
With your head held high
Walk like you are as confident as ever
Feel like you have set everything right
Fly to achieve that goal you’re after

And you might just smile for real this time.

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Make an Impression: #Theory 004

People believe that pencil marks fade away with time. Sadly, they underestimate the capabilities of the wood enclosed graphite contraption that a pencil is, able to write for miles. Some others seem to have a notion that pencils are for those who make mistakes. They seem to think that erasing some or all of your mistakes to over-right them with perfected efforts is equivalent to hiding your mistakes, and thus not being true to yourself.

My simple thought put on paper with this pencil (had written this quite a long time ago with my lead weapon), is that it doesn’t matter if you or anything you do fades away. Ultimately it would become ‘something that has faded away’, which would probably only intensify its significance. The little rubber at the end of your pencil is an option to undo your mistake. As much as committing mistakes is highly inevitable, identifying and then rectifying them is just as much essential to arrive at the best version of yourself.

After you’ve done your part of toiling, tripping, trudging and finally truly travelling towards your target of perfection, you’re left with a feeling of such seamless satisfaction that nothing in the world could possibly bring you down.

So go ahead, and debunk the ignorant and highly superficial myth that pencils are for people who make mistakes. Your efforts ultimately leave impressions that last forever. These impressions count the most, because impressions made by a thriving perfectionist are hard to forget, let alone the idea of them fading away!

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Mistakes leave impressions too. Only if you look close enough, will you see them. But after all, what are faint erased marks next to all your thought-out aspirations and achievements written in dark, bold, and courageous writing?

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Time’s Your Witch: #Theory 003

Five Minute Rant Okay, so I’m not great at timing

So here’s the thing. When you think you can get a certain task done within a mental deadline,  it isn’t the easiest task to achieve it. Most times it’s probably because you overestimate your capabilities and set unreasonable goals. Otherwise, it’s because of you getting hooked to watching an episode or two of your favourite TV show- which accidentally turns into a season or two.

*hint hint*

*hint hint*

On an online-binge-watching-youtube-videos-spree, I once heard Oprah say that we all like to believe that we’ve been given this life for a purpose. Most of us live our entire lives in the pursuit of finding this specific purpose that gives life to life. Some die finding it, while some die to find it. Either metaphorically or literally, we’re all under certain pressures to complete a number of tasks to make the course of our life worthwhile. Time, as a lot of us know is an extremely non-cooperative factor, nay a witch. You might think of ‘witch’ as a euphemism for an interchangeably impulsive word which might do justice to the horrible toll that time takes on us, but these pieces of digital text want you to think otherwise. Witches have all kinds of spells up their sleeves. Show them your best of abilities, and they will have just the right spell to defeat you in every way possible. They’re extremely clever and possess the intellectual disposition of wizardry and witchcraft, that outdoes the human brain any odd day. But, they’re also unreal. (FYI I’m all in for team HP, and am also in the process of becoming a potterhead)

For real, witches are a figment on imagination, and so is time. Yes, the world is ageing with every second that ticks on the clock, but isn’t it we who have given numbers to time, and restrictions to time periods? It’s the order of society to go to sleep at night and wake up at the break of dawn. It’s the order of society for a year to get over after the sun rises for the 365th time in a row. Sure, everything comes to an end for everyone that there is, but should time really be a hindrance in doing all that you do?

Punctuality is one thing, but productivity is another. Time restrictions usually mess with the flow of your thoughts and their interpretation. In the hustle bustle of today, the only legitimate advice to give anyone would be to start early and to take your time. Since the rest of the world follows the ticking hands of a mechanical device, play along while you make time yours.

Time’s your witch. (euphemism intended) You don’t have to follow the clock. Rather, make your own rules.

Classic Calvin.

Classic Calvin.

This just turned into an unintentional life theory. Huh. Well, anyway, do check out #theory001 and #theory002 if you’re up for some more cheesy, philosophical yet real and insightful stuff. =)